Cancer Treatment Options Forum - December 27th, 2010 - 13 Comments
If you had a friend who had cancer and was going through chemo?
if she was losing her hair due to the chemotherapy, would you shave your head in order to be supportive?
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You should first learn what your friend feelings are! Her approach may be hats, wigs, scarfs, etc. and not want to draw attention to herself. A bald friend in public might draw unwanted attention.
It is great you care so much for her to offer. You can also show your support by being with her as a friend. Visit often, bring prepared meals for her to use later. Offer to drive her to her appointments, drive her on an outing, or just sit and chat about non cancer topics (girlfriend chats). Be there for her, follow her lead, and you will be a very supportive
I shave my head anyway because i pull my hair out.
I would but if you don’t want it completely shaved you could just get it cut really short.
Certainly not! Would your friend wish you to do this; doubtful! If her life vista is likely to be short then surely she would like to see you as she has always known you? She may enjoy momentarily the craziness of your idea but that would be all; just be there until the end.
My daughter has cancer and she is 7. She is going through chemo and I shaved my head right along with her! so did my husband (her dad)
That would be a very loving thing to do for a friend and if faced with the situation I probably would, especially if it was important to her.
The fortunate thing with women is that there are beautiful wigs that they can wear and no one even knows.
If she had broken her leg would you break yours to be supportive?
I won’t shave my head. But i will tell her. You lost your hair because you’ll gain another beautiful thing inside you. Don’t be upset, i don’t have the perfect sight even, but i thank good i have eyes. My lips are not in a good shape, but i still use them, and i don’t want a surgery for them never.
Even i have a tooth not in the line but i still use it. Its about how to use other stuff, maybe they are not perfect but it makes us focus on our inner beauty, outer beauty will be gone by age and time. Some people are wishing to live just another 30m. with their beloved ones. Thank God we are together now in the same room, not in other separate countries.
I knew an entire cheerleading squad that did it.
The person really appreciated it.
I had a couple people offer, but I told them not to because I knew they were only offering out of pity.
For me, it would depend on your true intentions. Do you really want to go through this with me or are you just trying to be empathetic. Are you someone that hates short hair and I know it? Are you rather attached to your hair and I know it? Are you going to stay bald the entire time I am bald? Am I going to end up feeling bad later on that you have a hairstyle that you hate?
Those were the questions I pondered to myself about the people who asked, before I told them no.
depends
when my hubby went through chemo, he didnt lose all his hair and i offered to shave mine when if his all fell out, he said dont be silly, you would look stupid.
my 5 yr old nephew is losing his hair going through chemo, when his dad asked him if he wanted him to shave his hair… nephew said dont be silly daddy.
if you want to be supportive be there for your friend, offer to shave and see what she says.. or you could do shave for a cure, raise money to shave your hair off!!!!
I don’t think it’s necessary to shave your head to be supportive. The most supportive thing you can do is to just be there for her. I went through chemo last summer for breast cancer and my son and husband wanted to shave their heads. I didn’t want them to. It was bad enough I was going to be bald. My husband did end up shaving it in honor of my last treatment. But the things I found the most supportive was friends and family who have just stood by me through this whole journey. Also, I had plenty of people say, "let me know if you need anything", etc. I never felt comfortable asking for help. It was truly appreciated when a friend or family member, just went ahead and did something…like bring food over or take the kids somewhere.
My best to your friend.
Lots of people shave their heads as a show of support. If it is something that you really want to do I suggest you go to a website like http://www.stbaldricks.org or http://www.locksoflove.org and see about participating in one of their scheduled events where your sacrifice can actually raise some money for cancer charities or your hair can be donated for creation of a hairpiece for cancer patients. If they do not have an event in your area maybe you can start one.