Cancer Treatment Options Forum - March 30th, 2011 - 19 Comments
If your wife/girlfriend had cancer and needed chemotherapy and radiation but would kill your baby?
You have to choose the life of the mother or the fetus?
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Wrong. SHE has to choose her life or the foetus.
I am pretty sure SHE would choose her own life. After all, she could die before the baby is developed to a point where it could be born safely and survive. What’s the point of probably killing the infant as well as herself?
And why is it anyone else’s business but her own?
i would save the mom!
easy choice for me. Lady before baby.
I actually experience this situation. The mom refused chemo until the baby was born. The baby died shortly after birth. Then the mom died. Then the father died a year later. It was a horribly tragic situation. Save the life of the mother. I learned from this event, and it happened 30 years ago!
What kind of life would the child have with out its mother, never to know her etc, personally I would choose the life of the mother. But morn the loss of a little human being.
um in life and death situations the mother takes precedence in my book and the majority of doctors too.
Wow, tough question. I’d have to choose my child’s life, but you asked this about wives/girlfriends. It will be interesting to see the male point of view on this one.
The mother.
Wouldn’t a better question be, if YOU were pregnant and had cancer and needed chemotherapy and radiation that would kill the baby, what would your choice be? Or don’t you think both parents should make the decision together?
I don’t know what my answer would have been. Thank God I never had to make the choice.
the baby, how could a decide to kill her baby to save herself?
if the decision was left up to the mom then most cases the mom chooses the baby, but if the decision is not in her hands if the decision is in the hands of her loved one or the doctor then they would all pick the mother’s life.
I don’t wish this situation on anyone, if my loved one was in this position i would pick their life over the baby. I don’t care how bad this sounds but u can always make another baby, and if somehow u couldn’t then u could adopt. But if the life of your loved one is gone, then it is gone.
You could argue that you can find another partner and yes that is true, but you can’t give that baby their biological mom back!
I don’t know it’s up to the individual, I would choose the life of the mom
that would be a tough call, but the mom is the one who is already their,she would say save the baby but then would the father/husband say that? no, he would say save my wife/girlfriend. only God and those in this sad situation can know the answer.
Save Mother first.
A baby can come later. Even be adopted.
I would save the mom… i grew up without a mom an it was tough i wouldnt want tht for the child
If you had a pair of shoes, but they were both righty shoes would you try to wear one on your left foot if it was raining outside?
What does my question have in common with the question above? They are both dumb hypothetical questions.
my wife or gf i would chooses as i already know what they are and i would already love them i have no idea about the baby, and if shes alive there is another chance
This was quite a famous case in the late 80′s. Angela Carder’s cancer from childhood returned while she was pregnant. The doctors didn’t want to do chemo because they thought it would endanger the fetus. They performed a C-section without informed consent. (She mouthed "yes" while under anesthetic, but then got out of it and repeatedly said no; nonetheless, they shut her up.) Both she and the fetus were killed.
I choose my wife. I choose her for my mate for life. That was one of the only two oaths I took in my life. If I loose the fetus and save her maybe we can have another pregnancy. If not we can always adopt.
Bill
Given the specifics you lay out, I would have to say that her vote would count more than mine, but I would vote to save the life that is, before the one that might be. Selfish? Maybe.
But again, if my hypothetical partner disagreed, I would try to change her mind, but still support her decision.